We almost made it to 2021! I never thought a new year would get here. 2020 was a year full of change for all of us, whether we had personal changes happening or it was just the craziness with the pandemic there was a lot of change.
I consider myself to be a flexible person overall but when it comes to big changes in our life that can be hard to cope with no matter you you are. At the end of 2020 there were some big potential changes that took me by surprise and it was really tough to deal with them. They are still going on but I'm working to better set myself up mentally and physically to handle them.
Acknowledge that change always happens
No matter how much we try to avoid change by putting up walls or trying to put rigid routines in our life there will always be change. I mean look at 2020. Who ever thought that plans like the every Friday date night movie out or meeting up with friends for dinner out type of thing would be completely non-existent? Change is going to happen to us whether we invite it in to our lives or not.
Acknowledge the change
This is something that can be really uncomfortable for some people, myself included. If something makes me stressed or uncomfortable I try to avoid it. I try to not think about it or if it's a person avoid them. This is definitely not helpful or healthy. Acknowledging the change or the potential change will help you work towards not feeling so upset or stressed about it.
Connect with your support
Doing anything alone can be a bummer but when you're working through a big change it can be excruciating. You're alone in your thoughts about this change and potentially over reacting. When the big change was starting last year I didn't talk about it with anyone outside of my immediate family for several weeks which made it really tough. As soon as I opened up to a couple of my close friends it made me feel much better. Even if they can't do anything having your support people there to reassure you that you're not alone in the situation can make a huge difference.
Don't let the stress overtake you
I've learned over the years that super stress tends to manifest itself in my stomach. My stomach gets all tied up in knots before I realized that this was my stress reaction it could prevent me from eating for days. One time I even lost 8 lbs. in a week I could barely eat. Letting stress overtake me during that time of change like that was terrible. Since then I've worked on developing methods that help me tackle the stress and anxiety. What helps you tackle super stress change moments?
Don't vent too much
Venting to our support people can be super helpful but if we keep on venting over and over again it can become a bad thing. Venting without thinking about and talking through solutions won't help you through the change. It will only keep you stuck in the bad mindset. Make sure when you're venting to your people that you also switch over to that solution mindset.
Think positively
Thinking positively is an extension of getting into that solution mindset. Even if all we can see at the moment is the big bad change that has us so upset and stressed there is always something positive about it. By focusing on that positive aspect the big bad change might not feel so big and bad either. Good things tend to have a way of softening something.
Keep your routine
When parts of our life feel out of our control because they're changing it can be important to keep other parts routine. This will help you feel steady and not feel like your entire life is out of control. Maybe you eat breakfast at a certain time or always call your mom right after work. Make sure to keep the routine going so it helps anchor your life.
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